How Parental Disputes Affect Brain Development in Children

August 15, 2017

Broward County Family Law Judge John Patrick Contini in the court today spoke about how disputes and problems between spouses can have a very harmful effect on children, more than many parents realize. He had 7 scientific academic articles that he showed to the Father and Mother that found that children in chaotic relationships experience different brain development. Their frontal lobe is developed faster (seemingly good). However, their left and right brain develop much slower. These are the areas of brain related to creativity, logic, logical reasoning, imagination etc. It is so easy in a relationship to get caught up in the matter at hand but you have to look at the effects that can have on your children. One simple way to improve communications, which is given as advice to most parents at the beginning of a time sharing legal matter, is to avoid arguing in front of your children. Avoid including them in any argument with the other parents or discussing the argument with them. Agree to discuss the matter at a later time when you have some privacy, if possible. Also, avoid responding emotionally to the other parent. Try to be civilized and state your ideas or concerns without judgment, taking offense, feeling attacked or being defensive. Lastly, you must place your child's needs above your own. Swallow your pride and take the high road, as it is your responsibility as a parent. After the judge gave this information, the couple proceeded to fight leaving the courtroom and almost got into a physical altercation by the elevators. You would think they would feel enlightened by what the judge expressed to them, but the ideas did not appear to take root.